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  • Writer's pictureJim Hostler

Who's in Control?

In the grand tapestry of life, we often find ourselves caught in the delicate interplay between past, present, and future. Our past experiences, both personal and collective, tend to shape our beliefs and decisions. The past can sometimes cast a long shadow on our lives, influencing the way we perceive the world and ourselves. The long shadow of one's past can control your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and actions: in short, your life. Yet, there comes a time when we must ask ourselves: are we allowing our history to dictate our destiny? Are we unwittingly granting control of our future to the ghosts of our ancestors? Is it time to break the chains binding us to our past and create a future that calls and inspires us?

The human mind has a remarkable ability to recall past events and derive conclusions from them. This quality, while invaluable for survival, can also be a double-edged sword. We've all encountered moments where we've said, "That will never happen again," and, in that moment, unknowingly planted a seed in the fertile soil of our future. The past serves as a repository of lessons and experiences that guide our choices and behaviors. We rely on this repository to predict outcomes, and when we do, we surrender control over our destiny. In essence, we live our lives given by our past, we call it our future, and we are never present to where our real, authentic, self-empowered, self is: in the present. And the ONLY place to transform one's life is in the present!

a broken chain with light behind it. Signifying the breaking on our unconscious past controlling our lives
broken chain

One way in which the past exerts influence over our lives is through tradition. While traditions can be a source of connection and continuity with our ancestors, they can also be a way of allowing the past to hold undue sway over our future. Unconscious adherence to traditions can bind us to the expectations and values of generations long gone. One definition of tradition comes to mind to me, "tradition is letting your dead ancestors control your future". In essence, we may find ourselves living out our ancestors' dreams and fears, rather than forging a path that is truly our own.

This phenomenon is driven by one's ego, whose primary purpose is to control and predict our future to ensure survival. Our ego, shaped by the past, tends to resist change and unknowns, often causing us to remain ensnared in a cycle of predictability. Breaking free from this cycle requires hitting the pause button in our lives, taking time to reflect on the lessons of our past. Hitting the pause button in life gives us access to consciously creating our future, free of our past or if we chose to put elements of our past in our lives it is by design, not given by unconscious beliefs.

To break free from the constraints of the past and unconscious tradition, we must connect with our heart wisdom. Heart wisdom is a deeper, more intuitive understanding of ourselves that transcends the limitations of ego-driven thinking. It's the voice within us that speaks of our authentic desires, and aspirations. It is connecting to the wisdom of our soul. By listening to our inner voice, we can begin to shape a vision for our lives that is free from the shackles of the past. You are now in the domain of having purpose and fulfillment in your life.

This process of connecting with heart wisdom requires introspection, self-discovery, and a willingness to release old beliefs and patterns that no longer serve us. It involves understanding our true virtues, passions, and purpose, and aligning our actions with these insights. It's about living a life grounded in authenticity and guided by a vision that reflects our unique path, not one imposed by the past or our societal conditioning.

When we break free from the grip of the past, release the unconscious traditions that bind us, and connect with our heart wisdom, we open the door to an authentic future. This future is one that calls to us, rather than being predetermined by external influences. It's a future that we actively design and create with intention. You become the architect of your destiny!

In this authentic future, we have the power to rewrite our stories, redefine success on our terms, and make choices that align with our heart's deepest desires - regardless of past challenges or current circumstances. It's a future where we embrace change and uncertainty as opportunities for growth, rather than as threats to our ego's need for control.

Our past, present, and future are inextricably linked, but we have the power to break free from the constraints of the past and shape an authentic future. It begins with recognizing the ways in which we allow the past to dictate our choices and traditions to control our lives. By connecting with our heart wisdom, we can chart a path that is true to our essence, unburdened by the weight of history. It's in this space of authenticity and self-discovery that we find the freedom to create a future that calls to us, unshackled by the ghosts of the past.


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